This Kid is Getting on My Last Nerve

Yes as much as we love kids, most of us at some point or another have had this thought go through our head…“This kid is getting on my last nerve.” If not, I will be happy to nominate you for Children’s Leader of the year. But if you have had this thought, let me just say you are normal. I love kids and I have given my life to kid’s ministry, but there have been those moments where certain kids drove me nuts. You know the ones, you would never admit it, but remember the Sunday you were setting … [Read more...]

PODCAST – Episode 13

Do you have those days when things just don’t go the way you expected or your attitude starts to take a nose dive? Well kids have bad days too. Today we talk about how to deal with kids when they have bad attitudes or their behavior is difficult. We get them and I am sure you do too, those well-meaning and not always so positive emails from parents and volunteers. In this podcast episode, we go over how we respond to those always fun negative emails. Point Back: “Dealing with Bad … [Read more...]

“Raising Spiritually Healthy Kids” – Part 4

Here is the final thought in raising spiritually healthy kids. Approach Find the right Approach. Remember the first time you used one of those phrases your parents used that you swore you would NEVER use? Like “because I say so” or “just do what your told.” Yep, we’ve all done it. And it’s because of our patterns. Even if we did not like the approach our parents took with us, it’s still ingrained in our mental patterns. It seems a bit obvious to say we can’t use the same approach our … [Read more...]

“Raising Spiritually Healthy Kids” – Part 2

Here is another step in our journey of raising spiritually healthy kids: Be Authentic We don’t want to create the allusion that we never make mistakes or that we know it all. Be honest about temptations or mistakes you’ve made and what you’ve learned from them. The more open you are with them, the more open they will be with you. Of course, you must use discretion and discernment when sharing your mistakes or temptations. But if we as parents never discuss our difficulties, no mater how … [Read more...]

“Raising Spiritually Healthy Kids” – Part 1

Of anything I could ever ask for or want, my wife and I want our kids to be spiritually healthy. We all know the importance of raising spiritually healthy kids so it is not necessary to spend a lot of time making a case for those efforts. What I would like to do is offer several simple steps that will help us along this journey. This is not an exhaustive compilation of “what to do,” it is just four ideas that I thought might be helpful. The first thought is…Be AWARE. Teachable moments … [Read more...]

I Wish I Hadn’t Said That

You probably have never done this, but there have been a few occasions where “I wish I hadn’t said that.” It always seems to happen the same way. Here’s the scenario. I’m exhausted from being up late the night before the event or service. The next morning I receive a phone call from the volunteer who I was counting on to either bring a crucial component or be a part of the presentation. Guess what, something came up and they can’t be there. Well that's just GREAT! I rush into the church … [Read more...]

I Have an Agenda

Many parents are intimidated by the fact that the Bible says parents are the primary people responsible for the discipleship of their kids. They think, “I’m not a pastor. I didn’t go to seminary. I’m just a mom or dad.” Well, I’ve decided to begin a grass roots campaign at my church that will generate some confidence for our parents in becoming the disciplining agent of their kids. It doesn't happen all at once. Think like this…Crawl – Walk – Run. What is a “crawl” step our parents can … [Read more...]

PODCAST – Episode 7

Do your ministry kids say or do things that add humor to your life? We share a few stories we have experienced with our kids as well as answer a question sent by one of you. Today, we also discuss Halloween and what a church can do or not do for this day. Do you see it as an opportunity for your church to reach out to the community, is it one of your “low hanging fruits” or just a worldly compromise? Remember that what you do makes a differences in the lives of your kids and their families so … [Read more...]

That One Family

Every church has ”that one family.” You know the ones I’m talking about. They are the first ones to complain about the music being too loud and they are the ones who send your Sr. Pastor those “we don’t want to cause trouble but just thought you should know” letters. They are the ones who CONSISTENTLY show up an hour late to pick up their child after an all night lock in. (Which by the way, tests my Christian faith like nothing else). They are the ones who constantly ask you to make exceptions … [Read more...]