“Raising Spiritually Healthy Kids” – Part 2

Here is another step in our journey of raising spiritually healthy kids:

Be Authentic

We don’t want to create the allusion that we never make mistakes or that we know it all. Be honest about temptations or mistakes you’ve made and what you’ve learned from them. The more open you are with them, the more open they will be with you. Of course, you must use discretion and discernment when sharing your mistakes or temptations. But if we as parents never discuss our difficulties, no mater how simple or trivial it may sound to our kids, they will grow up believing it’s better to “cover it” instead of “own it.”

It’s more beneficial to coach your kids with openness about “when” things come up, rather than “if” they come up. For example when I was a kid, I had to look for trouble. But with the internet, social media and eroding filters, today’s kids don’t have to look for trouble or trash, it WILL find them. So be proactive and open about what to do “when” trouble comes up.

Ask questions like, “When you’re on the internet, have you ever seen some inappropriate material?” “What did you do?” Then, you can coach them about what to do the next time.

Being Authentic about our lives, struggles and difficulties says to our kids:

  • You are normal.
  • You are not a bad person for thinking that.
  • You are not the only one.

It gives them hope and encouragement to be as the scriptures say, “more than conquerors in Christ Jesus our Lord.”


  1. Steve,

    I agree wholeheartedly but want to take this thought one step further. I think this holds true not only with us as parents but also as children’s leaders. Our “church” kids need to see the real version of us not the perfect version church sometimes wants us to create. Again it needs to come through with discretion and discernment but they need to know we stumble and falter just like they do. Being a role model is as much about doing things in an upright manner as it is handling the missteps correctly.

    Great post!!!

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